Anytime you invest time or money into something, it’s because you are expecting something in return. The mistake most of us make is we invest without a strategy or smart intentions.
I was scrolling through twitter today, and I came across a thread that inspired me to write this post. The thread focused on the parenting style that many minority parents often use. This parenting style is often described as strict/tough. This method is effective because it can groom a child into having many qualities. Qualities such as being respectful, hardworking, strong and etc. However, when this method lacks basic elements such as proper affection, acknowledgment, and communication it can hinder a child in the long run. Many parents would rather have their kids fear them because they believe it to be the most effective method. By doing this, you just affect the potential relationship you could have with your child. A relationship that has open communication, where fear is absent. The Fear of a consequence, disappointment, or resentment. Although, this doesn't mean that your parent should be your best friend because there should be a balance.
Growing up in a household where tough love has always been shown is something I have grown to appreciate. It has shaped me to be a strong woman, and resilient as well. However, open communication is something that has always lacked within my family. I don't blame my parents for this, due to the difference of upbringings. However, it is something I feel needs to be spoken upon. Why is that there can't be a balance? Why is tough love, better than lack of communication or stronger foundation? Why are our opinions or thoughts usually silenced? The more this is talked about, the more things will start to change in family dynamics. All we need is a happy medium, all we need is a balance.
This weekend I spent time with my baby cousins. Watching them is like a job and a half, but I enjoy it. They always teach me something new, whether it is with their words or through their actions. I don't think society gives enough credit or respect when it comes to little kids. To me, they carry the meaning of life. Often times we belittle them because "they don't know anything"; however, they know the most important thing. They come into this world already knowing the secret of life. The secret on how to live life, which is through pure bliss and happiness. Its crazy, because we were all born with this key to life, but somewhere along the line, we lost it. The sad part is, is that only a few will learn how to get it back. The picture in this article was created by my little cousin. Usually, I don't know what it is she creates and I give a fake nod and say "that's good". However, this time, It's not that i understood what she created, its that she understood what she created and she loved it. Never silence or take away someone's creativity.